There is a difference between being married and being “merried.” Many marriages exist in the “just get by” mode. According to experts on the subject, less than 10% of today’s marriages are growing, happy, loving relationships. The other 90% just barely get by. Approximately 50% end up in divorce.
It is a blessing to witness a couple that is happily married. They enjoy being with each other and are still in love. They grow in their love for one another every year.
At the heart of the problem with the majority of the “just get by” relationship is selfishness; and the majority of the time we men are the culprits. Paul instructed, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her…” (Ephesians 5:25). This is a big commandment to submit to, and I hope you’re working hard at it. It will require selflessness instead of selfishness.
One great way to “spruce up” a marriage is the old fashioned way – work at it!! Very few things fall apart overnight and very few things are repaired overnight. Spending time together, sacrificing for each other, etc. will help turn a marriage into a “merriage.”
The institution of marriage is very special in the sight of God – after all, He created it! The commitment required is a big one. Take seriously God’s desire for you and your spouse as you grow together in Christ.
Mike